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Sunday, March 1, 2009

I interviewed a woman I work with regarding her choice to be childless. She is in her mid twenties and married. She expressed to me that her and her husband do not wish to have any kids. At first I thought maybe she was just young and not ready for them, but after talking with her I realized that she was very serious about her decision. She went on to explain her concerns about her husband's health. Her husband has gentetic disease that both of them do not want to pass on to a child. While there is no guarantee that their child would inherit the disease, they feel that it is too much of a risk and that it is selfish to have a child. Also, she said that it would be too hard for her to take care of children and her husband when he is sick. She was very sure about her decision to not have children. She is currently using the pill as a birth control method. I asked why not sterilization. Her response was that she was affraid to have the surgery and it was out of the question for her husband.
Now I understand her decision and I respect that. If I was in her position I honestly don't know what I would do. If I was positive that I was not going to have kids ever, I would get sterilized. Why continue to take a pill every day when and worry about the slightest possiblity of pregnancy when you could get permanent birth control? I know she is afraid, but I think that she needs to seriously consider sterilization.

3 comments:

  1. I commend her on thinking her situation through. So many people dont, have children and do a horrible job which in turn only hurts the child. I have a three year of my own and a ten year old stepson, I absolutly do not want anymore children. My parents dont understand my choice and I say I want my kids to have the best life possible and the best mom and dad possible and I know I could not be that if I had any more. I am already stretched to thin, and having another child would be selfish and wrong to that child as well as my other two. Having children is a serious decision and should not be taken lightly.

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  2. I believe that is very good reason to not have children. having two children I know I would not like to be the cause why my child was born with a disease I passed on. I respect her decision and I also agree that she should definitely consider sterilization.

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  3. I agree maybe she should consider alternative forms but what if shes truly not ready for sometime to permanent. What if something happens to her husband and one day she remarries and wants to have a child with that man? My brother had duchenne muscular dystrophy but his was a mutation and we made sure I was not a carrier before we ever took a chance of having a baby! It is a tough situation.

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